Dear
Daughter,
Have your
felt that pang of jealousy hitting you at the most unexpected times? When a
friend scores more than you, or gets better in life or looks more pretty than
you, do you feel a burning in your chest?
I am
not here to say jealousy is wrong. A little envy is so normal. But too much of
it is not and to understand it and tackle the feeling and not let that ruin
your peace of mind is the key. One main reason when this emotion engulfs you is
when you feel insecure about yourself. When you doubt your worth. I have felt
the same. And before it started ruining me I controlled it. There was an
instance when I felt I was far behind my peers despite doing everything they
did or sometimes much more. There came jealousy…an uninvited guest. The thought
gave me some sleepless nights and I began to doubt myself. But my love for
myself was much more than those rootless feelings I was able to kick them off.
All
your life you are going to encounter this emotion. But there are somethings
that can be done when you feel like jealousy is spreading out like a disease in
your life. Like …
Surround yourselves with trustworthy, positive energized
people. They boost your spirits like anything when you slide down.
Celebrate others success and be genuinely be happy in their
growth.
Do what your heart says, and never let others opinions
bother you. You might take a longer route to reach your destination but the
journey is all worth.
Count your blessings and you’ll know that there’s no need to
be envious about others.
Take a social hibernation once in a while. Social media is a
highlight reel. We just put the best of everything there. Best pictures. Best check
ins. Best quotes. Or life altering moves. Less than the best or even average is
not been uploaded there by anyone. Keeping away from screen for something gives
you time to look around and gain some confidence and me time. So unplug at the
right time.
Never ever compare yourself with others. There’s always
something better in him/her than in you and vice versa. Why waste your energy
in this, when you can fixate on the positives in your life and in the lives of
others?
So my dear
child,
When
self-doubt creeps in, when jealous peeps out and when you start running to beat
someone else, understand that, “Jealousy is really perceptual. Nothing that you have is
going to feel good if you’re constantly thinking there’s something else that’s
better. Don’t focus on comparisons.”
Yours,
Me.
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