Have you
ever thought, “Hell No, I’m done with these rules!”? I have.
Plenty of
times.
Two days ago
I was talking about the same with a friend of mine about how I am with some rules
and restrictions that tags along with them.
I am not a person or never being one of them who could break rules just
like that even when I have such an image.
Initially, I
try to obey them, then when the rules starts to choke me, I bend them a bit to
have that air space and finally when I’m breathless I break them!
I was
am (not sure anymore), tagged as a rebel, tom-boy and stubborn. I took
the life transformative decisions in haste or rather gave up to my parents. And
no, they didn’t impose any of them on me. They asked my opinion and I just let
them have their way. But one thing I discovered rather late was that I never
gave upon my decisions or likes. I just weighed my opinions as secondary, and
acted slowly.
But,
When I
decided my happiness were way more important than others, I was breaking the
selfless rule.
When I
decided that my integrity was far worthy than any relation, there I broke a rule.
When I chose
not to wear the *nishaani’s of
marriage to please the public, I broke the good-wife rule.
When I
befriended more males than females, I broke the nice-girl rule.
When I
decided to walk-out of life-ruining situations, I was labeled as an arrogant
lady and there I broke a rule.
When I
dismayed to be silent against the obscenities of a man, I was breaking the **adarsh Bhartiya naari rule.
When I
raised voice against the lies and embarrassment one bestowed upon me, I was the
breaking the compromise rule and ‘girls don’t raise their voice’ rule.
This rule … That
rule
Blah blah
blah!
There are
going to be millions to tag you, label you, poke you even drag you down when
you break some nonsense rules and start thinking and acting the way you wish
to. But just keep in mind, that none of them are walking in your shoes. Only
you, you alone will understand your path and will be able to make decisions for you.
Don’t give
up that right of yours for anything and anyone.
So go on… Break
some rules.
For your …
Happiness …
Freedom … Life
And for yourself.
You’ll be fine.
Actually, more than fine.
* nishaani’s of marriage - Signs
of marriage like wedding ring.
** adarsh Bhartiya naari – Ideal Indian Woman
Read Ishitaa's Blogpost too on Break Some Rules, You will be fine. I got this post idea from her's.
Linking this to #MondayMusings at EveryGyaan
Nice post, thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteThere are certainly some rules that don't apply to me, but I'm certainly accountable for the actions I do.
Thank you.
DeleteThat's there. When we break the rules, the results and actions are entirely ours.
How rightly said Sheethal - one should live ones life to the fullest and not bend under pressure to be perfect or fall in line with noxious rules which suffocate you.
ReplyDeleteThank You.
DeleteYea...just if only we had known this a bot earlier. But better late than never.
This quote by Dale Carnegie sums up my life's motto :) "Do the very best you can; and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from running down the back of your neck." Live to your true potential and listen to your inner voice before making any decisions, rest all will fall in place.
ReplyDeleteThat's a beautiful quote. Something to live upto.
DeleteIn the end it is our happiness and well being that truly matter. It is great to be selfless but sometimes one has to also be selfish. Saying no to things and people, sticking to our principles, and pursuing our passion...these things matter. Having said that, it does not mean we will lose our compassion.
ReplyDeleteGreat post indeed, warm greetings to you.
Saying no to things and people, sticking to our principles, and pursuing our passion...these things matter. SO true.
DeleteThank You so much.
I took the life transformative decisions in haste or rather gave up to my parents. And no, they didn’t impose any of them on me. They asked my opinion and I just let them have their way. But one thing I discovered rather late was that I never gave upon my decisions or likes. I just weighed my opinions as secondary, and acted slowly.
ReplyDeleteYou just summarised my life there. Wow girl, this is one of your best writes, in my opinion.
Love you. :*
DeleteI wish there were no rules!! Sometimes one feels chained within its confines isnt it??? But yes its finally about our happiness. So break those shackles and live life to the fullest.
ReplyDeleteYes break the shackles and live.
DeleteWell said. Life and relationships do not come with rules. So go ahead and make some and break some rules and that's because being perfect is boring and tiring!!
ReplyDeleteThat's so true.
DeleteInspiring. There are many stupid rules and religious construct that has to be broken. I love doing that, at times. It's about human freedom and expression.
ReplyDeleteYes, it's about the human freedom and expressions more than about the rules.
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