Every child, be it a girl or boy, dream about been married
to their soul mate. Right before they learn to be independent they start
looking for that special person all around. But then, why the divorce rate of
the present generation is rocketing so much?
Is this because, no one is ready to compromise? Or let go
of their freedom, to be loyal and to be humble to their better half?
You fall in love with someone and at the end of the day you
back out cos your parents won’t agree. The reason maybe different religion
caste, family background, financial status, age or whatever it is (Indian
Scenario). Actually, don’t you know your parents more than anyone, and you know
what they expect for their child. So before getting committed to someone, can’t
all the reasons be considered and then go for it. Love is blind. But after a
point does the blindness go away and you regain eye sight?
Break-up is always a choice for the good of both
individuals. If you find that you can’t get along with this person cos of your
huge lot of in-differences, that’s a reason. Get out of each other’s life. But
these days it’s always, “We are breaking up, cos our families won’t agree for
this, and we don’t want to hurt our parents”. So when you were like Romeo and
Juliet for past 2 or 3 years, mostly in college years,
you didn't have parents? Seriously, this is one thing I never
seems to understand. You can’t always find your soul mate from the same status
or religion or whatever criteria the family puts forward, but if you are ready
to love that person ignoring all this, be ready to spend your life with them
too.
As read somewhere, “Divorce/break up is just a fancy word
masking what is truly a broken attachment between two people. Divorce is more
than separating assets and belongings. It’s the severing of a very
strong bond founded on deep feelings of dependency and need. Believe it or not,
you developed an attachment to your partner over the course of dating and
marriage that connected you on an emotional and physiological level beyond what
you realized.”
Marriage or commitment is always a choice. If you are
willing to spend the rest of the days with him/her under every circumstance,
plunge into that sacred constitution or else just back out before you get
committed.
In very relation, be it in friendship, love, marriage,
siblings, there are fights, word wars, anger, jealously, misunderstandings and
imperfections. No one is perfect. Learn to love the imperfections. Give your
best in all relations. Never hesitate to say I love you or I miss you. Have
faith enough to say, “I trust you more than I love you”. Hug each other. Hold
hands. Never miss to give a Smile at each other. Mean your words. Be
proud of one another. Never break your promises, if you don’t mind to keep
them, then don't give out promises.
Try to hold the thread till the end, and if it’s meant to
stay strong you won’t lose it, or else leave. If you have ever loved that
person, you are gonna miss that individual when you back out. Why we have to
miss someone when we could be with them throughout? So, never give up someone
until you tried your best.
As the Christian Marriage Vows says….
I _____, take you ______, to be my wedded wife/husband.
To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer,
for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us
part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.
Give yourself to someone, “till death do us part”, and not
only till you feel satisfied.
P.S. A self-reminder to a future me if ever I
feel like giving up a relation. :)
