Saturday, April 20, 2013

Q for ... ...


Again I am late. I know, I know...

So, this is my Q post...!!!!




Quality Time!


When you think life is going exactly the way you want, it just takes a sudden turn and everything topples down. That’s how amazing life is. Life is never easy nor boring. It's a roller coaster ride with God being the driver, and we alone the passengers with some co-passengers who get down at some point or other. Ultimately we begin and end alone.





I have a brother, who’s in his high school, and whose biggest worry is getting up early in the morning and at times exams too. There was a point when I too had the same fears in my system. When I just wanted to get out of school and face the real world. After school there was another bridge before getting to life. College. There, the profession had to be choosed according to the job priorities and not coz of passion. After done with in-numerous internals, semesters, lectures, fests, hang outs, studies, scolding’s, seminars, projects, when was really out in the real so called world, nothing seemed real. Everything was so monotonous that you could almost predict your days. No one really bothers about anyone or even themselves. The ultimate goal is earn as much as possible before the last breath. For that sacrificing doesn't seem to be so hard.

Friends and relations became distant and end up in an occasional visit or call. Distance, busy schedules, work pressures … all these came up as excuses. Even I do the same thing. Being a person who hated monotony in any form, survival in this scenario seems far more difficult than I dreamt.

Does people really live, or is this is the ‘beautiful’ life? Where we get so few hours with family and dear ones? If you have to meet a friend who’s in the same country, have to plan, check the schedules and then finally get to meet. If he/she is in a different country, then the planning and rescheduling have to be done before months with prays that no unexpected work creeps up in the last moment. 

Work is always important, and money is too. Because, if I didn't get my pocket money from dad or earns myself, there’s no means to satisfy my leisure needs, which is an obvious factor for me. But apart from all these worldly love, don’t souls need the warmth and touch of other souls?

You born, you crawl, you walk, you start gaining knowledge from school and then college. You work as hard as you can but you smile too. Then to professional life, where you work much harder than you can away from parents, spouses, children, friends, home and everything dear to you. You earn money get back home to find that your child has already grown up and you missed his growing years. That your friends had drifted away from you, as you never had any time for them. That now you have so less time with your better half, as your days are few. So actually did you earn something or lost everything?

                                                                                                                                                             
“Stop and make sure that everything you are doing right now is really what makes you happy. You can’t just live for some goal in future and have that be everything… have that be it. Because that is what some people do. They get on this road and there are all these signs saying, ‘This way. That way.’ But what if you get there, you get exactly what you wanted, like some people do, except all the things were wrong, are still wrong. Then what?” – Party of Five.






P.S. Musings from a beginner in Life.

God Blez.





22 comments :

  1. You make very good points in this post. I have always felt the same. Money is good to have but it does not make life worthwhile...for that we need people and love. :)

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    1. True. People and love is important! :)

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  2. Lovely post Me, I forgive you for the lateness! Quality time with loved ones is so important, we will not all be on this planet forever so should make the most of the little time we have. Money is not important really, it does help though.

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  3. That is a hell lot of labels for a single post. I think it is more than all the labels for my blog :-)

    What you shared is the story of almost all Indian guys/girls who were born in middle class families, and somehow got the impression from our families and other surroundings that our happiness and station in life is directly related to mow much we study as children and how much money/assets we make as adults.

    The funny part is, most of us just don't realize it. We write things like "worked 20 hours straight" and Going to Goa, see you there" as facebook status messages, making others think there is something good in working like a fool and enjoying like an idiot. If you take it another way, then partying hard and working hard are almost the same thing, except that partying is a bit more acceptable to most people.

    Another thing, probably off-topic to your post that I have noticed, is that we differentiate between learning and working as different stages of life.

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    1. Hahaha.... I didn't even realize that I had too much of labels for this one.

      Actually this is not the case of Indians only. I was working with a Turkish firm in which there were full of Turkish & Filipinos, and they never even seemed to leave office. Actually working there made me feel so monotonous and frustrated.

      And "our happiness and station in life is directly related to mow much we study as children and how much money/assets we make as adults"... that's true... but when we get to see more lives we understand that most people these days crave for someone to listen to them.

      I used to differentiate learning and working as different stages, but now I know each second we learn something new. :)

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  4. Great advice. When my daughter was little I had a favorite saying...Housework can wait because she's only going to be this age once and quality time together means more than vacuuming right now. I see too many people just letting time pass them by and not spending quality time with the people they love, thinking they'll do it tomorrow but the only problem with that is they might not be here tomorrow.

    Dark Thoughts Blog

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    1. Thta's my wish too. When I have kids, I want to be there for their growing days. Don'y know how it'll turn out... but still... hoping so. :)

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  5. Very good advice but hard when you're working too hard full time and going to school at the same time. Now that I have free time my parents aren't around anymore and I sure wish they'd come visit for some quality time.

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    1. That's the best part. When we have time, we miss our people so much :)

      Hope you get more than enough time to spend with your parents.

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  6. You just touched that sensitive piece of everyone's life. I felt I was reading my own thoughts. Thanks for this piece. :)

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  7. You just touched that sensitive piece of everyone's life. I felt I was reading my own thoughts. Thanks for this piece. :)

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  8. Those fish are "low" on the food chain and we're "high" on the food chain, but what does it really matter? We're all still "on the chain." They can be eaten, we can die tomorrow, doesn't matter so much how it happens.

    But we can enjoy, I would like to think, to greater extent than fish. They eat, swim, eat, swim. Hopefully, we're doing more than going through the motions.

    Great post!

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    1. That's the part. We should do more than those fish. But at times we don't realize that. :)

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  9. I agree! Money is important, but it is not everything. Thanks for visiting yesterday!

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    1. Thanks for visiting here too :)

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  10. You're not all that late! You've probably been busy getting in some quality time.

    You are so right in what you say. Life goes by too quickly and once the time is gone you can't get it back. Time is our most valuable asset and we need to spend it wisely. The money will get taken care of--at least that's the way I hope it works.

    Lee
    An A to Z Co-Host
    Tossing It Out

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    1. Thanks for been here :)

      Yea, that's my belief too. Money will get taken care of. It's people around us that have to be given more imp. :)

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  11. Good thoughts. Life does go by before you know it. My little boy will be 27 this week. Where did those years go? I can't say I didn't spend them with him, as I taught him at home and was very involved in his life until he joined the military, but goodness the time flies!
    tm

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    1. Time truly flies really fast :)

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  12. My favorite time is time with family. I also enjoy time outside with my pets! And time alone with my blog is pretty nice too. I love having all these calming times with loved ones, but also some me time as well. :)

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