Allow Them To Live their Life.

A young man ended his life, because he couldn’t cope up with the pressure his studies demanded. He was a writer by heart. But his father wanted him to be an IITian, which he became. But not for long. And even now, his father lives in agony for his loss. Another girl, wanted to be a pilot, she dreamed about flying, and exploring new places. But she ended up in a Med School. After two years in school, she was admitted in the psychiatry department for severe depression.

“Follow your heart.” … something we often hear from all the successful people. But are we actually letting our children to follow their own dreams.  Yes, a percentage is… but majority are not. I am an engineer, by chance. And should say I never hated another profession the way I hate this one. And I have worked only less than a year in it. After that I couldn’t take it anymore. Not saying that it’s not a good profession, but I am not a good engineer. I believe engineering is the backbone of the world. And you should be passionate enough to be in that, which I am not. 

Every time when a parent decides something in their child’s life, one sentence they never fail to say is, “This is for your own good. I want you to have a good life.” But when are they going to understand that for a good life, happiness is the most important thing. I don’t believe that money can bring happiness. And if you’re not happy with your work, your work doesn’t even bring you the money or fame you deserve.

There are travelers now, who earn their bread and butter just through travelling the world and living their dream. But does any parent accept that as a profession. No! We have to fight for that, go against their wishes and show that this can be a dream job. And then they might give us a good smile. But why so much hungama? You gave birth to them, you bought them up, and you taught all the good things, to choose what is right and understand what is wrong. If you have complete faith in your upbringing or in your child, let him follow his heart. He may make mistakes, but he’ll learn from that. He might fall down trying, but he’ll get up again. But he will be happy doing this. At the end of the day he’ll be satisfied with the work and life he has and every morning he’ll be pleased to do the same.

There are people who are all ready to follow the crowd, but there are other people who want to make their own path. Let them do that. Just don’t hold them back to follow the everyday crowd. In the long run, these rebels will make everyone proud.  

Q for ... ...

Again I am late. I know, I know...

So, this is my Q post...!!!!

Quality Time!

When you think life is going exactly the way you want, it just takes a sudden turn and everything topples down. That’s how amazing life is. Life is never easy nor boring. It's a roller coaster ride with God being the driver, and we alone the passengers with some co-passengers who get down at some point or other. Ultimately we begin and end alone.

I have a brother, who’s in his high school, and whose biggest worry is getting up early in the morning and at times exams too. There was a point when I too had the same fears in my system. When I just wanted to get out of school and face the real world. After school there was another bridge before getting to life. College. There, the profession had to be choosed according to the job priorities and not coz of passion. After done with in-numerous internals, semesters, lectures, fests, hang outs, studies, scolding’s, seminars, projects, when was really out in the real so called world, nothing seemed real. Everything was so monotonous that you could almost predict your days. No one really bothers about anyone or even themselves. The ultimate goal is earn as much as possible before the last breath. For that sacrificing doesn't seem to be so hard.

Friends and relations became distant and end up in an occasional visit or call. Distance, busy schedules, work pressures … all these came up as excuses. Even I do the same thing. Being a person who hated monotony in any form, survival in this scenario seems far more difficult than I dreamt.

Does people really live, or is this is the ‘beautiful’ life? Where we get so few hours with family and dear ones? If you have to meet a friend who’s in the same country, have to plan, check the schedules and then finally get to meet. If he/she is in a different country, then the planning and rescheduling have to be done before months with prays that no unexpected work creeps up in the last moment. 

Work is always important, and money is too. Because, if I didn't get my pocket money from dad or earns myself, there’s no means to satisfy my leisure needs, which is an obvious factor for me. But apart from all these worldly love, don’t souls need the warmth and touch of other souls?

You born, you crawl, you walk, you start gaining knowledge from school and then college. You work as hard as you can but you smile too. Then to professional life, where you work much harder than you can away from parents, spouses, children, friends, home and everything dear to you. You earn money get back home to find that your child has already grown up and you missed his growing years. That your friends had drifted away from you, as you never had any time for them. That now you have so less time with your better half, as your days are few. So actually did you earn something or lost everything?

                                                                                                                                                             

“Stop and make sure that everything you are doing right now is really what makes you happy. You can’t just live for some goal in future and have that be everything… have that be it. Because that is what some people do. They get on this road and there are all these signs saying, ‘This way. That way.’ But what if you get there, you get exactly what you wanted, like some people do, except all the things were wrong, are still wrong. Then what?” – Party of Five.

P.S. Musings from a beginner in Life.

God Blez.