Thursday, April 6, 2017

Fate Contradicts - #F

Dear Daughter,

I don't know what I'm going to tell you today. I feel like no matter whatever I advise, give you gyaans sometimes nothing would prepare you to face the life that's happening.

Today morning I saw death. Again.

Brother of a dear friend who was just 20, passed away in an accident. I had just talked to my friend this morning and we were discussing what should be my "F" post and decided upon "Fighter" after so much of laughter and talks. After a few hours I heard the same man crying out loud. I just couldn't digest the contradiction that happened in between few hours. You know what I did? I did my nails! I have no justification for my action. But I wanted to feel some normalcy. After hearing the bad news I kept going back to the past deaths in my life. It took me years and so many wrong decisions to accept them. I did everything to have a busy day, today.  Had meetings till late evening since I didn’t wanted to stay alone even for a second out of fear of memories gushing into me. Even writing all this is feeling wrong, as if I’m utilizing one’s pain. But I really want you to know that life is unpredictable and comes without any kind of manual. Be prepared for the worst.  

Even when you will be fighting the whole world you could be vulnerable inside. It’s Ok. It’s really ok to be fragile. To feel the raw emotions. To endure pain. But my child, please don’t let that destroy you.



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  1. Death scares me sometimes. But one day we all are going down.

  2. Really liked ur last line .... pain should never b a reason to destroy us ....but to make us more strong and be an inspiration to many others who are going thru the same pain

  3. Fate can play cruel jokes on us sometimes. Stay strong my dear sister. I'm here if you need anything

  4. Fighting with the demons and facing the world with a smile is a very difficult thing to do. I am sorry for your friend's loss. I hope you are feeling okay now Sheethal


  5. Oh thats sad! Hope the family gets the strength to overcome the loss. Feelings within are normal but they shouldnt as you say bog you down or destroy you

  6. Death is not easy to deal with, I have still not come in terms with losing my mom 11 years ago. Sometimes in anger I tell my little one what if mamma goes for ever and he goes numb...Yes we must learn to accept the unpredictable. Courageous letter!

  7. Life can change in a moment. We should savour every moment. Very sorry to hear of your friend's loss.
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  8. I'm really sorry to know about your friend's brother. Somethings are really unpredictable and our reactions to them are even so.

  9. Life s really unpredictable and I dont know how to explain it to my girls. It is a tough lesson for them.

  10. We never know what will happen the very next moment amazing guide for kids to be prepare for the unexpected
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  11. Death, the unnatural one is reallu dreadful. Its difficult to reason it... but thats what is life... as u said..its ok tobe fragile but should not get bogged down by the pain.
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  12. A very plain talking post. It's hard to tell kids this stuff, but understanding it helps us appreciate life - which is an important lesson.

  13. I like your line about how it's okay to be fragile and feel emotion. And I don't think there's a right way to process death. The ones who are gone are gone, and the rest of us have to keep living. Sometimes, taking care of us and our emotional well-being after a death happens can look like the "wrong thing," but it's needed, just as much as tears and sorrow.

  14. Yes death is unexpected and is very painful to absorb and come to terms with it! Being a fighter is tough too!!

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  15. True, there will always be things in life that we can never be prepared for. They strike our of the blue. Extremely sorry for the loss.

  16. I am very sorry for your friend's loss. I hope your feeling well.